Change is a mindset, and it is personal.
“Leaving my corporate career to find a husband in New York at 41, getting married at 46 and now coming back to Singapore in 2016 to immerse myself fully in the startup paradigm — each was a big change and have taught me so much about myself, and about the world out there.”
Change is a mindset.
If you’re geared towards a growth mindset, you want to know more, experience more, do more and push your own envelope of comfort to change.
This means gaining new knowledge along a direction you’re pursuing. Be willing to try new horizons, even if it’s unnerving, or when you’re uncertain of the outcome. Take action along a change trajectory and be prepared. It will take you to a whole new path.
Change is personal.
Be it a big or small change, the optimism in me first relish in the positives that have come out of the change. I often process my thoughts after going through a major change: “What if I had not made that change? How much would I have missed?” After you have done this year in year out, it becomes second nature.
At times, I find it an adrenaline rush. The idea of not accepting the status quo. We have access to an abundance of resources and possibilities, not taking advantage of it is such a waste. We only use x% of our minds. We rarely learn from our experiences because we don’t invest the time to sharpen our hindsight and intuition.
What’s next after a big change?
Naturally, not everyone responds the same after a big change. No two situations or experience is the same. No two people will interpret the same change the same way, because we each have our own past, goals, dreams ,wants and needs and plainly speaking, change appetite.
Leaving my corporate career to find a husband in New York at 41, getting married at 46 and now coming back to Singapore in 2016 to immerse myself fully in the startup paradigm — each was a big change and have taught me so much about myself, and about the world out there.
The great thing about big changes is you discover so much about yourself. From fear to anxiety to procrastination, the journey before and how you get to the point of decision is certainly met with a whole mixed bag of feelings. And it often times accentuates while you are in that journey.
Having an appetite for huge risks helps. Having an attitude of “you have nothing to lose” further reframes the perspective and effort required.
Having been through many transitions, one would accumulate more foresight and get better at predicting the odds. For most people, leveraging hindsight can be very useful too. I think it is important to take a sanity check and ask yourself honestly, is this what I wanted?
Be prepared to make further changes, or completely derail regardless of how long it has taken you to get to this point in question.
What happens when we’re afraid of change?
I believe in positive fear. When I’m motivated, the fear becomes a propeller and not a hindrance. When I don’t see my motivation for certain projects and goals gaining momentum, then I know, I’m on the wrong path.
Being afraid is normal. Being unmotivated is scary. You have to be out of your comfort zone to qualify for a meaningful change. Your personality can be a major hinge to how you cope with change and how you live with that fear. How much you enjoy the change depends on whether you were meant for that change.
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Christina Teo is the Founder of freelancer concierge platform Want Things Done. Since 2018, Christina has organised bi-monthly Women Changemaker events, beloved by corporate women in their early 30s. Counting entrepreneurs and freelancers as frequent guests, the event series see panellists sharing their career and finance stories in an interactive manner.