Self Love Is Not Selfish

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Taking time to care for ourselves is important, period.

By ShuQi Liu

Prioritising time for ourselves is a non-negotiable. Often, our to-do lists are filled with datelines that give others our time and energy:

Replying an email.

Scheduling business appointments.

Lunch with the family.

Run an errand.

Walk the dog.

We hardly make time for ourselves, and self-care plays a big part in making sure that we show up 100% in life.

I’ve learnt the hard way. Not loving myself brings negative emotions into my daily life:

I complain about factors beyond my control – the traffic and weather, just to name a few.

I am irritable and grouchy, wearing a sullen pout wherever I go.

I binge eat, because it can temporarily make stress and anxiety go.

Is making time for myself really that hard? I questioned. No, because self love comes in so many ways.

On busy days, drinking tea takes 5 minutes. Sipping on fresh hot brew, the calming effects of tea can centre the breath. Inhaling, I ground myself in the moment. Exhaling, I thank myself for taking a pause.

With 10 minutes, I track my expenditure. I simply record the month’s expenses, and stash away money into a savings account. These little habits will put me in good stead for the future.

“We hardly make time for ourselves, and self-care plays a big part in making sure that we show up 100% in life.”

To ensure I am nourished, I take 20 minutes to make a home cooked meal. It is comforting to know that I have control over what I eat. Simple fare like eggs, stir fry vegetables and boiled Chinese noodles keeps me satiated.  

Once a week, I set aside 30 minutes for a pampering body scrub and face mask. Personal hygiene is so important. It contributes towards a successful social life and a strong immune system. It is also one of the easiest stress relievers from my humble home.

Finally, I stay active for 60 minutes every day. With a desk-bound job, walking and running almost feel like a rare commodity. I move to stay supple. This keeps me healthy and confident.

Self love is not selfish. Taking time to care for ourselves is important, period.

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